Be Your Natural Self While Dating

Don’t Try Too Hard To Impress When Dating


Confidence In DatingWhen you first begin dating someone, it is only natural to want them to like you. However, one of the biggest mistakes that you can make is trying too hard to impress them. This almost always backfires. A far better option is just to be yourself. Chances are they will like you exactly the way you are without having to put on a big show.

There are quite a few different ways that you may try to impress someone. For instance, you might list off all of your accomplishments. Although it is great that you have accomplished a lot of things in your life, it can come across as bragging, giving the other person the impression that you are full of yourself.

If you talk through your entire date, never letting the other person get a word in edgewise, it can also be a major turnoff. This is especially true if you are talking mostly about yourself. Focus on having a conversation with the other person, not trying to impress them with everything that you say. Instead, by carefully listening to them and sharing your own thoughts and feelings, you can have a much better experience.

This concept also applies to your clothing. Rather than wearing something that is over the top in an attempt to impress the other person, it is far better to wear clothing that you are comfortable in so that it doesn’t come across as if you are trying too hard.

Communication In Dating

The person who you are going out with expressed an interest in you because they want to get to know you better. If you put on a big show during your date, they won’t have a chance to get to know the real you. In many cases, you may even wind up driving them away.

Most people are looking for someone who is genuine and who is confident in who they are. Rather than trying too hard to impress someone when you first start dating, focus on really trying to get to know them. Do your best to be yourself. Try not to brag about things that you have done or to dominate the conversation. When choosing an outfit to wear, look for something comfortable that makes you feel confident. Following these simple guidelines will help you have a great time on your date and will improve your chances of successfully connecting with another person.

Beating First Date Shyness

How To Easily Beat The Awkwardness Of First Dates

First Date

If you did not have the best experience on your last blind date, you might want to consider some of the strategies that you are using. It is difficult to interact with someone who you know absolutely nothing about and these first dates can be very awkward. What is most uncomfortable is not being sure what someone will think of you, in the initial moment that they see you. You may have a picture online that they have seen, but it’s always going to be a little bit different when you meet in person. This apprehension can really affect the way that you talk with people, interact with them and whether you will ultimately have another date after the first date is over.

How To Beat This Awkwardness

The first thing that you should do before arriving at this blind date is to realise that it’s just an activity that you are going to do. This is not a person who is important to you. This is not a person who can make or break your day, or change your life. They are simply someone who you are meeting. You also have to realise that they are there to meet you because they have an interest in you. Whether it was your conversations with them, your background, or the way that you look, they actually do want to be there. With that in mind, you should have a little more confidence about what will happen during this meeting. You will ultimately be much more comfortable with any blind date that you go on, if you think this way.

How To Weigh The Odds in Your Favour

In order to weigh the odds in your favour of having a successful date, confidence is part of the solution. However, there are a couple other things that you need to have. First of all, you need to become a good listener. You need to realise that the person who you are meeting for the first time, is someone who you know absolutely nothing about apart from what you have read about online or listened to when on the phone. Most of us know that the person who is presenting them self online is seldom going to be the person who you actually meet. That’s why you need to listen to what they say, process that information and then respond throughout the conversation. If this is someone who you would like to meet again, let them know that you are interested enough to listen to what they have to say, this will maybe prompt a second meeting.

Blind dates can be absolutely awkward. But they don’t have to be. All you can do is your best. As long as you recognise that both of you are coming together based upon a mutual attraction and if they are not what you are looking for, it will not alter your life, irreparably. You can just be yourself, relax and have a good time.